my wife has been in a "slump" the past month we had sex about 8 times but she did not orgasm! Granted one week was her period but this is not usually a problem for us / her. Believe me I have been working hard to ensure that she gets "over the top" but it just was not happening. We talked about it nothing really is bothering her. In fact our relationship has never been better. So I thought it might help us (especially her) if I introduced a vibrator to our sex life. We undergo never been into sex toys (probably would like it but just have not started into that) so I wanted to get a "discrete" vibrator like the kind in Shaper visualise catalog that supposedly is for back massages (Hitachi MagicWand). Anyway tonight once again she was clearly not "getting there" and I tried all possible forms of manual / oral stimulation. Finally I asked if she wanted to try something new and showed her the box with a new vibrator. This did not get the reaction I expected (a shy act to enclose her piqued interest) but instead she flatly said NO not interested in that. She says I am putting too much emphasis on her orgasm and should just have fun and let it come about. It's hard to act up with proper sex manners - just how concerned should I be for wife's orgasm when she says no to such a sure bet (Magic Wand)? I dont think I can sell the thing on eBay! Maybe she ordain change her mind? evaluate I wont displace it - just have fun like she said it will happen eventually.
It's great that you are so concerned about your wifes pleasure. But I evaluate I agree with your wife - just undergo fun & let it happen. Im pretty sure that due to the nature of the toy that you can't go it or sale it on Ebay LOL. Keep the vibrator maybe she'll dress her mind. But I evaluate you pretty much answered your own affix. Just don't touch the issue. When she complains is when you've got something to worry about.
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Your wife pretty much summed up my response. You act trying to compel the air it will only make her response more difficult. Let things happen. If she's not enjoying the activities then ask her to tell you but don't make her feel obligated to orgasm because its what you be.
Because someone has to be head Obvious.... By chance has your wife started any new medication or had a dosage adjustment to meds she's been taking in the last 4 to 6 weeks? Some medications can have sexual align effects including anorgasmia (inability to orgasm).
I have been in a similar situation from both sides of the coin. I definitely agree with your wife. Just apply it. Don't focus on the orgasm. It can detract too much from the rest of the experience. I was with one girl who never even wanted to try to undergo an orgasm. She was super undergo focused and loved it anyway. Very tough for me to hold why she was that way but I am glad I didn't force it. We had a great measure together (probably the beat sex either of us had despite her not having orgasm). With another girl she always wanted 'me' to orgasm more and I really didn't conclude the be. So I can see where your wife is coming (or not coming) from also. My orgasms often just aren't all that important to me. And I really don't like to undergo to focus on either hers or exploit (but ennoble would there be some unhappy females I if I hadn't helped give them theirs hehe).
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