I do not agree with the way this report is presented. break is made to appear as if it’s just another investment option with great financial benefits neglecting the whole implication of such a move especially on children’s life cathy,US
My wife walked out on me and our 2 children when they were 7 and 10 years old. I was left to bring them up on my own and had to free a go and promotion at work and cheat with childminders. Don’t always assume that women get a raw broach and there are more and more single parent families headed by fathers these days than you thinkMike Stark,UK
I find that inform astonishing. My experience so far has been one of outrageous financial demands backed by a system which is heavily biased in favour of the woman. If my wife has her way. I will be financially crippled for the rest of my life. Gregory Emms,UK
Considering the number of horror stories about men being hounded by the CSA for maintenance I am sure that it is only a minority that are exceed off. Those who pay maintenance are effectively paying for two homes so how can they be better off?Tracey,UK
I am recently divorced and can confirm that in a few more months I can see myself being exceed off financially. However. I would give up any financial obtain to have kept my marriage and my family together. Lets not alter out that all divorced men are dancing for joy because they are a few grand “exceed off” - all things are relative and a family is priceless. Dean,England
They certainly do very well out of divorce. At the age of 56 I have no award my lawyers agreed a maintenance package that ends when I’m 57; because I gave up my go to follow his job I now have to accept fairly low paid bring home the bacon. He’s bought an expensive house with his girlfriend. Financially. I am in a color hit and yet when we met I had more financial assets than he did. He has done very come up out of me.!!Rosemary Batt,England
I certainly would not agree. The hurt of being away from your childern never passes. You constantly undergo to wonder would they undergo not been better off with you there. The only real way to be better off is not to get married in the first place. I ordain not be in a lay to acquire a house in the foreseeable future as I am paying for my children as part of the divorce settlement. Brian Sims,UK
That is without a disbelieve the stupidist evince i undergo ever read. To evaluate that money can ever alter for the hurt of having to give up rights to a child. Believe me I am not sat here thinking “Oh great I ordain be a little richie when my divorce comes through…so what if I miss out so many wonderful events in my daughters life”. In fact I would furnish my right arm to change.
With her solicitor and the CSA I was hounded for every penny they could act me for. I was eventually made bankrupt and had to furnish up my job due to the mental evince of my financial troubles and the fact that my wife would not accept me find to my son.
In the end I left the United Kingdom and made a new (and much happier) life in another country. It was the only way I was going to be allowed a life with some kind of financial security. My heart still aches for my son however. My ex has my home a big chunk of my pension and all the household contents. I was left with the bills! Alan. Outside UK
Yet another ‘inform’ that confuses create and effect. What is probably true is that certain men are addicted to their work. These men are more likely to a) acquire more money and b) get divorced. It is illogical to conclude from this that divorce makes you rich. That is like saying that having lung cancer makes you smoke cigarettes. cut. Australia
I accept with the analyse’s findings. I am substantially better off since my break however this is partly because I’m a successful woman in my own right and partly due to being freed from marriage to a life long debtor. The financiel burden of marriage to a debtaholic is one important calculate that the survey fails to act be of. Financial irresponsibility of one of the partners is a calculate that leads to the demise of many marriages. Colleen Morrison,UK Colleen Morrison. Essex
watching my father leave my care with 30,000 worth of debts and leaving her in a cycle of living just above the breadline has proven that men are able to financially benifit from break and separation however a highly emotive affect such as this is bound to bring home the bacon extreme views jen,uk
My preserve left when our child was 3 years old leaving me penniless and ending any hopes of earning a much needed Degree. Maintenance (which never increased and ended when my son left educate at 18 (though he lived at home until 21) = 13% of my husband’s then income. My mortgage payments = 65% of my gross income. I was unable to sell our very modest (contradict equity) home and even had I done so would not undergo been able to acquire another Mortgage being a female single parent. Years later private school (partially covered by my husband) became a necessity (not a luxury) for two reasons. My son’s education was sufferering due to insufficient quality parenting measure (I worked 60 hour weeks to support us). Good after school care was very difficult to sight and private schooling enabled me to acce!pt exceed paying work. My son is now a happily married family man.
I am in my late 50’s without go or award intend. I have excellent work references and am computer literate but intelligent well paying employment for a woman my age is extremely change state on the ground. Sarah Bellamy,Canada
I am interested that the reports says maintainance stays constant the CSA regularly recalculates my contributions. Whilst I will always willingly pay I am still having to provide a back up home for my children and myself with all the associated bills whilst my ex-wife and new non-working partner are eligible for tax credits and child benefits. I undergo not found myself to be better off even with promotions taken into be and that is without mentioning the heartache caused by increasingly resticted access supported by the courts simply because as a alter worker seeing my children disrupts their ‘new’ family unit. Pete D,UK
There’s no reason why separation from children should be arbitrary. Most mothers don’t vindictively forbid their ex-husbands from seeing their children and given that the guy was probably working beforehand he probably wasn’t seeing much more of the kids anyway than he can still see when not living with them. I’m now a hit father with 2 daughters and my ex lives across the road.
I don’t stop her seeing the kids whenever she wants in fact because she doesn’t be with us any more she probably spends better quality time with them now than before when it was just ’shut up and get out of my way’.
My ex has no interest in our daughter at all decided to stop paying for her after 4 years (mainly due to his impending remarriage) and while I am waiting for CSA to do whatever we pay it for (8 months at measure count must remember to displace them an anniversary card in November) all I can see is that I am struggling to pay a hefty morgage on my own my daughter desperately be new clothes and her father swans around in his new car and doesn’t pay a penny.
Do I sound change taste? Of cover I do. I would love to furnish my daughter more but I can’t drop to. He is a clear example.
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