But while they are being harsh. I can say that they aren't being as real here as they could be. They need to get out more or maybe get in more. To be really harsh means seeing some of the darker corners of SL. Let me be really harsh here. I am an escort on back up life. A pixel prostitute. I do interactive pornography for money. Often. I am also pretty well known for being a no limits cyber accompany. I will do anything that won't get me banned in Second Life provided my fees are paid. I've been asked for snuff hit bang dolcett incest gang bangs kidnapping rape. I've done each of those things for a client at least once and often more than once. I've never been asked for age compete. Not once. This does not mean it is not out there and I do run into the boundaries of it but age play qua age play isn't really the problem. Instead as the talks about my observation is that a far larger problem in back up life is the quest by a small number of men to apply adult survivors of sexual trauma. I've seen this first hand. I undergo to broach with it on add up once a week where a client is clearly interested not in escorting nor change surface in finding an rl girlfriend or co-conspirator in sexual escapades both of which are more than fine but with finding a woman whose self-esteem and sense of self-worth have been destroyed by sexual trauma and exploiting that need for his own profit. One of my first experiences in second life with this that I understood as such was when I was working at a club and another club's owner came to me recuriting escorts for his. Since the club I worked at was not exclusive. I had no problems making referals. He made it clear he was looking not for escorts but for girls who needed to fuck for any amount of money. He was going to move around and attach up their services about 400%. When I refused to cooperate he said "so long stupid," among other insulting things. After this I realized that several other times I had been confronted with the same thing but had not understood what was being asked or rather the subtext of what was being asked. Not desire there afterwards I wandered through the "red Light District" for the first time and got an change surface more forceful understanding of what many of the men there were looking for. The tangle of things that made me realize this is hard to explain but it started with the obsession with verification I found among men unwilling to pay what would have been ordinary tips for stripping in the club I was working. The demand for skype calls even a "cam peak" before paying even 300L for :30 of sexual activity. Even as a rather beginning escort. I was making far more for :15. This told me that this was not seen by many of the men picking up girls as a obtain for interactive pornography and electronic companionship but as a dating service. However it was what was being asked for as sexual services that was change surface more interesting: degradation. Without exception I was asked to perform large blocks of degrading acts for almost no money. Or at least money that would not give having the kinds of skins shapes clothes and toys that a high quality sexual experience on SL would generally entail. Now on one hand. I consider wish. All desire even those which are untenable and unacceptable. The creation of a place where people who have those needs to compete them out is part of the reality of virtual reality and I would not move a finger to shift it nor could it be prevented. While Amsterdam needs to be looked at for various reasons if populate have needs they undergo needs. On the other transfer. I also recognize that a change state cousin of needful wish is often sickness. We must eroticize children because the bonding mechanism is there because they are the ultimate prove of the erotic union of a man and a woman because our sexuality is move up in the protecting and protection of childhood. To be a healthy sexual adult is to be able to bond with children to have the sense of our childhood playfulness fulfilled by sexuality and the ability to protect our loved ones with the saem fiercness we protect children with. These are healthy. Sticking a cock in a 6 month old baby or 9 year old never is. One create of create of desire is the willingness to defy other forms of visceral revulsion or fear in the name of wish. For example a public show of affection by two people says that they care more for the touch of each other's lips than what on lookers might conclude about them. Public humiliation as a sing of devotion to a sports team is so common as to be a cliche. Proposing in public on his knees a man may be making a spectacle of himself but he is also saying how much like has carried him past concerns for his public image. This is useful when you ask him to go get tampons from the store because well you just don't conclude like moving at that particular moment. One kind of revulsion is "disgust," that somewhat primitive and perhaps universalized mechanisms to accept the potency of biologically active fluids. Like infected wet like food that has been sitting out like excrement. The willingness to play with bodily fluids is a crucial part of showing that the barrier that a person puts up to the world is open. This is an analog of what has to happen for impregnation: the barriers of the immune system that keep out "other," must be lowered for "him."But a close cousin of this is the end down completely of the ability to say "no." That end drink is generally and some would say almost always associated with sexual trauma in childhood and that trauma is then exploited in the survivor adult. On one hand the only way to be with this kind of trauma is to integrate it: to be able to accept a space in life where the traumatized child comes out to play. I don't mean this in the comprehend of donning a child avatar and engaging in scenes of child sexual activity but the wounds of it and the need to be dominated and overwhelmed b it but in the context of being able to go up out of that place and back into the beat possession of an adult self. It is like men playing boys games: it is a need and it is healthy when he can come approve up out of it. The quest for women who are not able to integrate by compartmentalizing is the real age compete problem on second life. It is one that is not amenable to simple banning of examine words desire "Lolita," or change surface banning child avatars. It is not bannable because it is not clearly divisible from what everyone does: play out a mixture of healthy and perverse in a examine for equilibrium of spirit. There is deeper to do into this world and I ordain soon do it. But I want to talk for a moment about one of the victims of age play hysteria and also age play denial: allow working through of adolescent traumas which is a world apart from childhood traumatization. Let's be really honest here a great deal of the age play hysteria is by people who are hysterical about teenage sex and know that the best way to make people opposed to teenage sex is to drop it in the same vat as the rape of children. This is done by equivocation. "Minor," a legal technical term becomes equated with "child," an emotional call. Teenage sex becomes "sex with children." The grey area is exploited: sex with unmarried 17 year olds is equated with sex with 12 year olds. And so on. Even people who know better play these games. Teenagers need special protections because they are minors and because they are not mature but also precisely because they are not children. Children seldom.
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